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This is the fifth bite-size chapter of The Wishing Dildo series!

Summary: It is said that the Wishing Dildo can grant any wish relating to sexuality or fertility, as long as that wish is consensual. Prince Hart sure hopes that is true as he and his friend, trickster Tala, embark on a quest for it. As they travel, they soon discover that sometimes the greatest adventure is the people you meet along the way.

Note: This story contains some sexual humor.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

The Wishing Dildo Part 1: Six Companions

Chapter 5

This story is continuing from Chapter 4, which you can read here.

The day was hot and sunny, so, at midday, they decided to stop and eat their meal in the shade of a dense clump of trees a short distance from a crossroads, which, not so coincidentally, would also serve to block their magical tent from view. However, when they entered the grove of trees, they were surprised to find a regal, fat, onyx-skinned woman with smooth features, high cheekbones, and a crown of ebony braids sitting on a stump, bandaging her feet. She was wearing sturdy but ill-fitting clothing, and next to her was a stiff pair of boots that was clearly far too big for her.

When she saw the five of them, the woman gasped and dropped the bandages she had been holding onto the ground.

Well, the moment that Min saw the regal stranger, she was instantly smitten with her, and no sooner had the woman dropped the bandages than Min had leapt off her horse to run over and help pick them up. “Let me help you with those! Oh dear, some of these need to be washed. These three should be all right, though—they didn’t touch the ground! And, oh! This one too! Not this one though, or these two…”

“I’m fine, thank you,” the woman said firmly. “I can get the rest myself.”

“It’s no trouble!” Min said cheerfully, and she continued picking up bandages despite the woman’s attempts to block her. “I’m happy to—Oh my! Are those rubies?!”

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I’m a Sexual Asexual

Note that this article contains frank talk about sexuality.

This picture is a flag that is based on the asexuality flag (which is four stripes with black at the top, then gray, white, and purple on the bottom), but which has a large triangle in the middle where the color order is reversed (purple on the top and black on the bottom). This is the aegosexual/autochorissexual flag. I am using it here because I think the flag looks awesome and because there aren’t any other flags out there that are a better fit for me.

This picture is a flag that is based on the asexuality flag (which is four stripes with black at the top, then gray, white, and purple on the bottom), but which has a large triangle in the middle where the color order is reversed (purple on the top and black on the bottom). This is the aegosexual/autochorissexual flag. I am using it here because I think the flag looks awesome and because there aren’t any other flags out there that are a better fit for me.

I am in my mid thirties and it was only in the past couple of years that I figured out that I’m asexual. Knowing this, finally, a lot of things make sense. Like, for example, how I spent almost a decade in queer inclusive communities before I figured out that I am queer. Or why receiving sexual stimulation never really worked for me.

My earliest memory of my sexual orientation comes from high school. I was part of a Gay Straight Alliance and I remember publicly identifying as straight while privately feeling that straight didn’t really fit me. (This was before I realized that I am genderqueer, so at the time I thought that I was a woman even though that label didn’t fit right either.) I remember telling myself that my discomfort with the term straight was probably just privilege. After all, becoming aware of one’s privilege can be seriously uncomfortable and I was attracted to men (mildly and on rare occasions).

The thing was that at the time I couldn’t tell I was attracted to women because in USA culture everyone is trained to look at women and appreciate how they look. That’s how mild my attractions are; when I was a teenager I couldn’t tell that I was attracted to women because the culture had trained me to look at and notice women.

And while it would seem like my experience of almost nonexistent sexual attraction combined with exposure to the LGBTQIA+ umbrella would have lead me down the road to discovering my asexuality in college, what I actually discovered in college was my deep connection to sexuality.

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In this third podcast segment of The Wishing Dildo Series, the adventure continues as we get to know Anissa, and then the five companions visit the temperamental rulers of the Gilded Kingdom. The story is followed by a discussion about brain diversity, mental health, and the gifts and struggles of ADHD with spiritual atheist Kathleen Lamothe.

I wanted to have a discussion about ADHD when the character Min was first introduced in the previous podcast, but that was also the episode where Anissa was introduced and it was important for me to address myths about sex work in that episode. That is why I saved the discussion about Min’s ADHD for this episode and I think it worked out perfectly because Min plays a really prominent role in this episode and there was a lot to talk about!

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

The story for this episode is a segment of The Wishing Dildo Part 1: It is said that the Wishing Dildo can grant any wish relating to sexuality or fertility, as long as that wish is consensual. Prince Hart sure hopes that is true as he and his friend, trickster Tala, embark on a quest for it. As they travel, they soon discover that sometimes the greatest adventure is the people you meet along the way.

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This is the fourth bite-size chapter of The Wishing Dildo series!

Summary: It is said that the Wishing Dildo can grant any wish relating to sexuality or fertility, as long as that wish is consensual. Prince Hart sure hopes that is true as he and his friend, trickster Tala, embark on a quest for it. As they travel, they soon discover that sometimes the greatest adventure is the people you meet along the way.

Note: This story contains some sexual humor.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

The Wishing Dildo Part 1: Six Companions

Chapter 4

This story is continuing from Chapter 3, which you can read here.

That evening, they reached the bank of the Placid River, where they made camp. The following morning, they hired a barge to take them south, then west down the river to the capital.

Once they had boarded, gotten the horses settled, and cast off, there was nothing for the passengers to do but watch the scenery as they glided south through the bustling countryside. This was a big challenge for Min, because, without the immediacy of horseback riding, there wasn’t anything to take her mind off her curiosity about Anissa. And Min’s mind was bursting with questions—questions that she held back because Anissa didn’t seem to like being questioned and Min didn’t want to be rude.

So Min tried to focus on the scenery, and as she did so, the barge passed through a field of people with their heads bent, hard at work with their weeding hooks. Before the rest of her mind had caught up with her, Min asked, “Do you ever wonder why they call it ‘planting the parsnip’ when people don’t even plant parsnip roots? I mean, they sow seeds, right? AND parsnip roots don’t look that much like penises. They are all wide at the base and super pointy at the tip. Carrots are more like it, but you don’t plant grown carrots either, so maybe it should be something like ‘washing the carrot?’ Except that you wash carrots with your hands, which is a different kind of action, so maybe something like ‘baking the carrot’ or ‘stuffing the carrot into the roast?’”

Anissa laughed and said, “I don’t think there’s much logic to euphemisms.”

Min gasped and covered her mouth. “Oh no! I’m not supposed to ask you questions, am I?”

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This is a photograph of graffiti on a wall. The graffiti is a black and white artwork of two people who appear to be a white cisgender woman and a white cisgender man, both of whom are in wheelchairs with artistic designs on their wheels. They are leaning toward each other and touching while gazing into each other’s eyes in an intense, romantic fashion.

This is a photograph of graffiti on a wall. The graffiti is a black and white artwork of two people who appear to be a white cisgender woman and a white cisgender man, both of whom are in wheelchairs with artistic designs on their wheels. They are leaning toward each other and touching while gazing into each other’s eyes in an intense, romantic fashion.

I am going to start by saying that, in general, there is an absence of stories with disabled characters. When disabled characters do show up, they are often confined to specific, narrow roles. Most often disabled characters are used as objects of pity, inspiration, or both, where our everyday struggles are treated as if they are somehow more extraordinary or terrible than the struggles in other people’s lives.

In stories that portray disabled heroes, they are either disabled in name only (usually as a character who has magic, abilities, or technology that makes them effectively an able-bodied person), or they are treated like their mind is the only thing they have to contribute (almost as if the writers wanted to erase or ignore their disabled bodies).

In addition, these portrayals of disabled characters frequently fail to capture the lived experience of being disabled. In these stories, the characters never seem to encounter the barriers that real world disabled people run into every day, and yet the world they live in is not portrayed as more accessible than modern USA society.

The lack of real-feeling, diverse representations of disabled people is a major concern for many disabled writers, artists, and activists, and it is a key reason I have put so much effort into including disabled characters in my own writing.

Well, in addition to being a writer, I am also an avid player of tabletop role playing games, but despite my commitment to writing disabled characters, I have not been playing disabled characters in these games. In fact, until recently I was struggling to imagine what dynamic, awesome disabled characters would be like in the context of these games. This is because many role playing games, like Dungeons and Dragons, are action focused and revolve around power fantasies of characters that are not only able-bodied, but physically capable far beyond the capacity of a normal able-bodied human. The very structures these games can make it hard to play disabled characters.

As a queer person I know that it is important for me to be able to play queer characters and to have that part of who I am reflected in games. In the same manner, I believe that it is important for me to be able to play disabled characters.

Too often the world around me gives me the message that being disabled is a state of being lesser, broken, or incapable. But the truth is that real world disabled people are capable of many, many things and we need to be reminded of this in the face of all of the messages telling us the opposite. This is why it is so important to be able to imagine and play heroic disabled characters that reflect this truth.

I want to experience diverse, dynamic, complicated, amazing, and capable disabled heroes. That is why I am creating the Unfamiliar Heroes podcast series, because I want to work with other disabled people to combine our experience and creativity to make something that is bigger and more expansive than any of us could do on our own. Together I hope that we can have fun playing tabletop role-playing games while we create real-feeling disabled characters that express the diverse lived experiences of disabled people in games that demonstrate all of the genuinely amazing things that disabled people are capable of.

 

This article is my in-progress draft of the introduction to the first podcast episode of Unfamiliar Heroes.

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This is the third bite-size chapter of The Wishing Dildo series!

Summary: It is said that the Wishing Dildo can grant any wish relating to sexuality or fertility, as long as that wish is consensual. Prince Hart sure hopes that is true as he and his friend, trickster Tala, embark on a quest for it. As they travel, they soon discover that sometimes the greatest adventure is the people you meet along the way.

Note: This story contains some sexual humor.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

The Wishing Dildo Part 1: Six Companions

Chapter 3

This story is continuing from Chapter 2, which you can read here.

It was not easy for the horses to carry two extra people, but they gave the horses frequent rests, and after another day of riding, they arrived in the capital. There, Prince Hart presented the queen with many fine gifts, and she in turn honored them by announcing three days of feasting that would start the very next day.

Tala and Min were both excited about this, but Tomás was concerned about spending so much time with the queen. He knew that people frequently made assumptions about his tremor, as well as about his exclusive use of ceramic cups and cast iron utensils. In addition, he worried how the queen would react to any mishaps.

“Tension makes it worse,” he said to Prince Hart, Tala, and Min, “and I do not want to cause offense.”

“Would it help if I made an opportunity for you to explain the situation to the queen?” asked Prince Hart.

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This is an image of a pile of multicolored dice. These are the types of dice used to play tabletop role-playing games. The pile include 20-sided, 12-sided, 10-sided, 8-side, 6-side, and 4-sided dice. Many of the dice are metallic and have different colors artistically swirled together.

This is an image of a pile of multicolored dice. These are the types of dice used to play tabletop role-playing games. The pile include 20-sided, 12-sided, 10-sided, 8-side, 6-side, and 4-sided dice. Many of the dice are metallic and have different colors artistically swirled together.

Announcing Unfamiliar Heroes, a podcast series in which three disabled and/or chronically ill players and a game master will play story-focused tabletop role-playing games in which all of the player characters have disabilities and/or chronic illnesses. Each game will be a one shot that will be recorded in one to four sessions and then broken into multiple podcast episodes. For the moment, Unfamiliar Heroes will be released as episodes of my Writing Alchemy podcast.

You can read more about this project here.

I am so excited and passionate about this project. As a disabled person, it concerns me that I’ve never played a disabled character in a tabletop game. There are a lot of reasons for this, but two big ones are the lack of disabled representation that exists in speculative fiction and that game mechanics don’t always make a lot of room for characters with disability. This project aims to change that by carving out space for disabled players and characters.

I am actively recruiting people for this project, so if this excites you too, please contact me at fayonyx at writingalchemy dot net!

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Today’s discussion with activist, comedian, and sex worker Vee Chattie focuses on the lived experiences of sex workers. In this conversation we talk about the performative aspects of sex work, emotional labor, myths, stereotypes, stigma, and empowerment.

It was really great getting to connect with Vee and talk more about their personal experiences and I’m really excited to share that in this episode.

Photograph of the back of a slender person wearing a white shirt and red and black striped skirt. The back of their head is obscured by a red umbrella. The red umbrella is a commonly used symbol of resistance to the discrimination faced by sex workers.

Photograph of the back of a slender person wearing a white shirt and red and black striped skirt. The back of their head is obscured by a red umbrella. The red umbrella is a commonly used symbol of resistance to the discrimination faced by sex workers.

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This is the second bite-size chapter of The Wishing Dildo series!

Summary: It is said that the Wishing Dildo can grant any wish relating to sexuality or fertility, as long as that wish is consensual. Prince Hart sure hopes that is true as he and his friend, trickster Tala, embark on a quest for it. As they travel, they soon discover that sometimes the greatest adventure is the people you meet along the way.

Note: This story contains some sexual humor.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

The Wishing Dildo Part 1: Six Companions

Chapter 2

This story is continuing from Chapter 1, which you can read here.

That evening, Prince Hart and Tala were the guests of honor at an elegant supper at which the local nobility did their best to impress the prince on short notice. As the lead masons within the city, many members of Tomás’ family were also present. Normally, commoners such as themselves would have been seated at a distant table on the other side of the room, but Prince Hart asked that they be seated next to him in recognition of their skill and hard work on the future library.

Interestingly, each member of Tomás’s family brought their own hefty ceramic cups and bulky cast-iron utensils with them, which they used in place of the fine cutlery and crystal glasses that had been provided by the nobility. So as to avoid offense, Tomás explained that the weight of these cups and utensils helped reduce the effects of the family tremor while they were eating. Indeed, even with the added weight, several of the family elders experienced shaking that was strong enough to spill wine and fling food. At one point, there was a tense moment when the grandmother’s spoon ended up on Prince Hart’s plate, but he just laughed and handed it back to her, and with this, everyone finally relaxed. All further mishaps were handled with grace and humor.

At the conclusion of the meal, Prince Hart and Tala explained the goal of their journey and told everyone about the Wishing Dildo. As they spoke, Tomás’s family listened with rapt attention. Afterward, many significant looks were exchanged between members of the family.

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In this second podcast segment of The Wishing Dildo Series, the fairy tale continues as Prince Hart, Tala, and Tomas meet two new companions, each with a unique magical superpower. Then activist, comedian, and sex worker Vee Chattie joins Fay for the following discussion about the reality verses myth of sex work, sexual superpowers, boundaries, marginalization, and community.

This is an exciting podcast for me because I get to introduce two new characters and their super powers. I spent a lot of time combining sounds to create the perfect effects to bring these characters and their powers to life. I hope you enjoy it!

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

This image is meant to capture the feeling of an exciting adventure. A road traverses a rocky, mountainous landscape that is dramatically lit by the setting sun.

The story for this episode is a segment of The Wishing Dildo Part 1: It is said that the Wishing Dildo can grant any wish relating to sexuality or fertility, as long as that wish is consensual. Prince Hart sure hopes that is true as he and his friend, trickster Tala, embark on a quest for it. As they travel, they soon discover that sometimes the greatest adventure is the people you meet along the way.

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